Meet Emma Abel Loach, M.Ed., Ed.S., LMFT, Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist
Every person in the world wants to connect to others, especially to their most important people.
Whether you are looking to start therapy as a couple, an individual, or as a family, I recognize that it is painful to not know how to reconnect with the person you love. Many people don’t know how to fix their relationships, heal from the past, or create a healthier and more hopeful future.
I strive to help every client learn to do just that. Nothing makes me happier than seeing relationships improve and people healing together from past events.
I have always been interested in what makes a good relationship stick. I’ve dedicated my professional career to figuring out why people get stuck in negative patterns with their loved ones and what they need so they can create relationships to meet those important needs.
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and Level 2 Gottman Couple Therapist, I have specialized experience and advanced training in couples counseling for healing affairs and other relationship trauma, improving communication, and decreasing unhealthy conflict. I am also certified to help premarital couples using the Prepare/Enrich program. Additionally, I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy.
Words That Describe My Counseling Style
Who Are My Clients?
I enjoy working with a variety of clients of diverse backgrounds and situations! I consider myself to be competent in helping couples, families, individuals, and children. I am LGBTQIA+ affirming.
Maintaining a happy relationship with anyone takes effort. However, the rewards of cultivating a healthier, closer romantic relationship are worth the time and investment!
Whether your relationship is in its early stages or it is well-established, I am a firm believer that coming to couples counseling is beneficial for everyone. I have experience working with couples who are:
- Repairing big hurts, like affairs
- Wanting to enhance a good relationship to make it great
- Unhappy in their relationship and don’t want to settle any more
- Hoping to increase friendship, romance, or sexual intimacy
- Premarital Couples who want to form incredibly strong foundations
- Deciding if they want to stay together, or if the relationship can be saved
- Facing a significant relationship obstacle, such trauma or substance use
Families have so many dynamics and personalities – it can be hard to decipher them all when you are in the middle of it! That is why family therapy can be incredibly beneficial.
Whether your family involves two people or ten people, family therapy can help! I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy, and I have experience working with families who are:
- Facing new challenges, such as divorce or trauma
- Looking to reconnect with each other in newer, healthier ways
- Wanting to feel closer and increase healthy communication
- Needing to re-establish boundaries and rules
- Brand new and have no idea what they are doing!
Even though most of my training and experience has been with more than one person in the room, I love to work with individuals who want to improve their relationships.
Whether you are in a relationship where your partner is unable to come to therapy or doesn’t want to come to therapy, talking to a therapist can still help.
Even if you are not in a relationship but are still looking for someone to talk to about relationship or family issues, I would love to talk with you. Most people would be surprised about how much they can learn about themselves just from talking to a therapist about the things that matter most to you.
Children & Teens
If you are considering bringing your child to therapy, I’d love to talk more about utilizing the parent-child bond to help create healthy changes in your child’s emotional or behavioral health. I utilize play therapy techniques and Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) when working with kids. Bring your child into therapy if he or she is:
- Acting out
- Withdrawing or not acting like themselves
- Experiencing new stressors or changes such as divorce, new school or new sibling
- Refusing to talk to anyone at home
Also, bringing your child to see a therapist is a good idea if you think he or she might have experienced a trauma. I am also happy to see parents who are looking for new or better ways to connect with and parent their children.
How do you help people with relationship challenges?
Attachment-Based & Emotionally Focused Therapy
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, I know how to help you identify the negative patterns causing disconnection and how to help you learn new ways of communicating that bring closeness and intimacy.
For our entire life, we have a wired-in need to feel secure in our most important relationships. I can help you make sense of the things you do to cope with not feeling secure that may not always work out the way you want them to. Then, we can work together to find new ways of coping that build stronger bonds and bigger feelings of security.
Most people come into couples counseling wanting to work on improving communication or healing hurts. Research shows that helping people focus on their emotions and finding ways to share them in positive ways builds more connection, security, and safety in relationships.
Even better, when we can learn to share our emotions more fully, that’s where the magic happens. When couples are sharing their most important vulnerable feelings and aren’t getting caught in negative patterns, people feel happier, they have really enjoyable sex, they live longer, and families create ideal conditions where people feel an abundance of love.
Dr. John Gottman is known for his extensive research in figuring out what makes some relationships last and others fail. In fact, his research has allowed him to predict if a couple will last or not with 92% accuracy!
The Gottman Institute advanced training has given me significant insight into how to help couples on the path to unhappiness change course and be successful. I promise to come to every session with a framework of curiosity, empathy, and acceptance to help you connect with your most important people using the wisdom of all of Dr. Gottman’s research. Research shows this approach to helping couples can be tremendously successful!
I am also a big fan of giving my clients things they can do outside of session to be making improvements all of the time – not just in sessions.
Favorite Things to Do Outside of Counseling?
Taking hikes on new trails
Playing board and card games
Watching movies with my spouse
Hanging out with my pets (or anyone else’s pets, for that matter!)
Credentials and Background
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
- Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist
- Advanced ICEEFT Training in Repairing Infidelity
- Advanced ICEEFT Training in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy
- Gottman Level I and Level II Trained
- Gottman Certification in treating relationship trauma and affairs.
- Certified to use the Prepare-Enrich premarital curriculum
I earned a Master’s and a Specialist’s degree in Couples and Family Therapy from the University of Florida. There, I helped couples, families, parents, and children improve their relationships and well-being. I also worked as a couples and family therapist in Tampa, Florida, before moving to Colorado in 2018. I would love to work with you!
What are your fees for Counseling?
Fees for Counseling Sessions with Emma Loach, LMFT, Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist:
$270 for a 75-minute session, $180 for a 50-minute session