Samuel Murray, Sex Therapist, Couples Counselor, LGBT, polyamory, BDSM

Hi, I’m Samuel Murray

Couples | Individuals | Families | Teens

My clients are all people looking to improve their relationships with better communication, deeper understanding, more pleasure and feelings of closeness.

I am a relationship guide, communication coach, and sex therapist. I work with clients of all ages, ethnicities, cultural and religious backgrounds, sexual orientations, relationship styles, gender identities, and expressions, who long for closeness and harmony in their relationships.

Relationship Guide

I help you identify and change the distressing relationship patterns blocking your connection. Working together, I can help you overcome a broad range of relationship challenges like:

  • Distance and Disconnection
  • Arguments and Conflict
  • Misunderstandings
  • Sexual issues
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Past Trauma
  • Life Transitions
  • Grief

You can create the life and love you want.

Communication Coach

Communication can be challenging for any relationship. Yet, it’s so hard to see the disconnects and blocks when you’re standing in the middle of it.

My primary role is to see the patterns of disconnection and support you in building more secure communication that will help you both feel understood and closer.  

I operate from a strengths-based perspective. I collaborate with you to reinforce the aspects of your relationships that are working well for you, and help you to better understand the pieces that might be causing problems.  

Sex Therapist

Sex is so important to our well being. When you’re experiencing difficulties in such a central part of life, it can be incredibly painful. I want to help you create sexual fulfillment, connection and enjoyment. Sex Therapy can help you overcome sexual challenges or concerns in the following areas:

  • Lack of communication around sex
  • Negative communication cycles around sex
  • Differences in sexual desire
  • Past sexual trauma and its effects on current relationships
  • Difficulty with arousal or orgasm
  • Pain during penetration
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Premature or Delayed ejaculation
  • Sexual compulsivity
  • Concerns or curiosities related to gender identity or sexual orientation
  • Life stress affecting sex:  depression, anxiety, illness, infertility, trauma, and infidelity
  • Exploring and renegotiating relationship contracts and boundaries (especially in terms of monogamy)

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Affirming, Welcoming and Knowledgeable

I aim to make all people who come to my office feel safe, welcomed and understood. I am supportive and affirming of transgender, nonbinary, genderqueer, and gender-nonconforming clients, as well as clients in nonmonogamous and polyamorous relationships.

In addition, I am knowledgeable and affirming when working with or exploring kink and BDSM practices. My background includes volunteering with the Trevor Project as a counselor for LGBTQ+ youth and their families, which has since become an important aspect of both my clinical practice and advocacy work.

My approach is anchored in a sex-positive, pleasure-affirming, and body-positive frame. You can expect a judgment-free and non-pathologizing safe space to feel cared for and seen. If something isn’t a problem for you or your partner(s), then it generally won’t become central to our therapy.

How I Help

I use research-based Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as my main guide to helping you and your relationships, but I pull from the Gottman Method and Narrative Therapy.

During initial sessions, I will meet you where you are and explore ways in which issues are affecting your relationships.

We look for patterns and cycles where you are stuck, and work to understand what drives those patterns. From there, we help you reconnect, rebuild and find the love you’ve been desiring. 

More about me

When I’m not with my counseling clients, I can be found rock climbing and exploring the Front Range, reading with my cat, traveling as much as possible, or participating in the Denver music and arts community.

I graduated from Thomas Jefferson University in Philadelphia with a Master’s of Science in Couple & Family Therapy and a specialization in Sex Therapy. I also have specific training and experience working with post-9/11 veterans and their partners.

Living in Philadelphia, I worked as a couple, family, and sex therapist intern at the Council for Relationships. While there, I was fortunate to provide therapy for a diverse range of clients. I am currently working towards licensure as a Marriage & Family Therapist, certification as an EFT therapist, and AASECT certification as a sex therapist.

Office Location

Thrive Couple and Family Services is located in Greenwood Village, in the heart of the DTC just off I-25 and Belleview. Our office is easily accessible from Denver, Englewood, Aurora, Centennial, Littleton, Parker, Highlands Ranch and Castle Rock.  Our address:  7000 E Belleview Ave, Suite 350, Greenwood Village, CO 80111

How can you schedule an appointment with me? 

Simple! You can call our main number, 303-513-8975, ext 1. Our helpful Client Services Manager Joanne will gather the information we need and get you set up for your first appointment. You can also schedule online with me below.